If you’ve recently lost a close friend or relative, you may receive an invitation to help spread their ashes. This beautiful ritual can bring peace and comfort during your time of grief as you celebrate and reflect on the life of your loved one while spreading their ashes.
However, if you’ve never participated in this tradition, you may be unsure about what to say when scattering ashes. In some cases, you might not want to say anything at all, but instead, simply take a moment of silence to reflect on their life. Here, we provide a collection of thoughtful sentiments, ranging from quotes and poems to prayers, each carefully selected to help you find the right words to say when scattering ashes.
Reflective Quotes to Say When Scattering Ashes
In moments of farewell, words can be both a comfort and a tribute. Consider these quotes as you seek the right words to say when scattering ashes, each offering solace and a reflection on life and love.
1. “May you touch dragonflies and stars, dance with fairies, and talk to the moon.” —Leny Hollie
2. “You may be gone from my sight, but you are never gone from my heart.”—Luther F. Beecher
3. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” —Dorothy Ferguson
4. “The song is ended, but the melody lingers on.” —Irving Berlin
Poetic Tributes to Say When Scattering Ashes
Poetry can convey the depths of our emotions with beauty and grace. These poems serve as powerful tributes to love and loss, offering hope and inspiration. It’s another way to add a special touch, as poems offer beautiful metaphors that help us express what we can’t always put into words ourselves.
5. “When I’m Among the Trees” by Mary Oliver captures the solace found in nature’s presence, reminding us to live gently and shine brightly.
When I am among the trees,
especially the willows and the honey locust,
equally the beech, the oaks, and the pines,
they give off such hints of gladness.
I would almost say that they save me, and daily.
I am so distant from the hope of myself,
in which I have goodness and discernment,
and never hurry through the world
but walk slowly, and bow often.
Around me, the trees stir in their leaves
and call out, ‘Stay awhile.’
The light flows from their branches.
And they call again, ‘It’s simple,’ they say,
and you too have come
into the world to do this, to go easy, to be filled
with light, and to shine.
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6. “Those We Love” by Alex MacLean reassures us that our loved ones are always with us, unseen but ever-present and cherished.
Those we love don’t go away;
they walk beside us every day,
unseen, unheard, but always near;
still loved, still missed, still very dear.
7. “May Time Soften Your Pain” by Anon offers a comforting reminder that love endures through sorrow, healing us with cherished memories and love.
In times of darkness, love sees…
In times of silence, love hears…
In times of doubt, love hopes…
In times of sorrow, love heals…
And in all times, love remembers.
May time soften the pain
Until all that remains
Is the warmth of the memories
And the love.
8. “Peace, My Heart” by Rabindranath Tagore speaks to finding completeness in farewell, letting love transform into everlasting memory and melody.
Peace, my heart, let the time for the parting be sweet.
Let it not be a death but completeness.
Let love melt into memory and pain into songs.
Let the flight through the sky end in the folding of the wings over the nest.
Let the last touch of your hands be gentle like the flower of the night.
Stand still, O Beautiful End, for a moment, and say your last words in silence.
I bow to you and hold up my lamp to light you on your way.
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Prayers to Say When Scattering Ashes
For some, saying a prayer while spreading ashes can bring a sense of solace. We’ve included a few prayers for inspiration.
9. An Irish Blessing invites blessings of nature and God’s tender care, wishing for a peaceful journey until paths cross again.
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields, and until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
10. Prayer for the Dead is a Catholic prayer seeking eternal peace and joy beyond life’s sorrows.
In your hands, O Lord,
we humbly entrust our brothers and sisters.
In this life you embraced them with your tender love;
deliver them now from every evil
and bid them eternal rest.
The old order has passed away:
welcome them into paradise,
where there will be no sorrow, no weeping or pain,
but fullness of peace and joy
with your Son and the Holy Spirit
forever and ever.
11. A Traditional Apache Grief Blessing wishes for renewal, peace, and healing.
May the sun bring you new energy every day,
bringing light into the darkness of your soul.
May the moon softly restore you by night,
bathing you in the glow of restful sleep and peaceful dreams.
May the rain wash away your worries,
and cleanse the hurt that sits in your heart.
May the breeze blow new strength into your being,
and may you believe in the courage of yourself.
May you walk gently through the world,
keeping your loved one with you always.
Knowing you are never parted in the beating of your heart.
Personal Reflections to Say When Scattering Ashes
You don’t have to rely on someone else’s words to honor your loved one. Whether you share your favorite memory of them or simply say how much they’ll be missed, your words provide a beautiful tribute to the deceased.
12. Share a special memory
When honoring the life of a loved one, reflecting on a fond memory can also be a thoughtful tribute. Share a story that encompasses who they were as a person or what they meant to you while you spread their ashes.
You could share about the moment you fell in love with them, the time they made you laugh so hard you cried, or how you became best friends. Any special memories you share are meaningful and will give others a chance to reflect as well.
13. Say a final goodbye
When preparing for an ash-spreading ceremony, don’t feel like you have to write or rehearse a speech ahead of time. Simply expressing your love and saying “you’ll be missed” can be extremely powerful.
For example, “I love you with all my heart and will miss you dearly,” or “My love for you will never waiver, and I’ll think of you every day.”
This list just scratches the surface when it comes to all the heartfelt things you can say when scattering ashes. As long as you speak from the heart, whatever you decide to say when scattering ashes is certain to be a perfect tribute.
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